Common Themes

There seems to be some commonality of 'themes' between parents and children of the parents in this building. Sad to say. It confirms observations I have had over the years about the 'orientations'.... (don't like to use that word as it would be misinterpreted). I really don't get it. I put 80 percent of the fault on the younger generation...the lack of compassion...the holding of grudges....the arrogance really. Since when they become older they will realize the COMMON THEME of being a HUMAN BEING as the primary binding quality between people. They will come to see they are just the same. They will make the same mistakes. They will not have learned anything differently than their parents. They will only have DONE THINGS DIFFERENTLY than their parents. The outcomes will be the same. The learning will be the same.

So why not smarten up now....is how I see it. I have spent most of my adult life trying to strengthen the connection between my parents....so much was by trial and error. This is the first holiday season that I have chosen to be alone....and not because of anything my parents have done....or not done.

Many of these "relatives" are caught in their own concepts....just like I used to be when I was younger. (That is not to say that I will not continue to have different things to overcome in terms of concepts. But I accept that as a given...consciously).

I wonder if the interactons between generations that seem to be prevelent in this building hold true for other groups of people.Perhaps not, since these perceptions seem to be of what the 'dramas' consist. Many people don't seem to want to know about another reality....of kindness, contentment, understanding.....of people recognizing in each other their own selves as HUMAN BEINGS.

These observations go back to my earliest observations about this group...I used to have a list on the fridge that I noticed exemplified many attitudes I observed...mostly the men....the 'D' list....denegrade, deny, defy, deminish, dismiss, etc. And this was all before I learned I had any direct connection to this phenomenum.

This ATTITUDE is all such a waste. I guess these comments refer to that old observation (was it Mark Twain?): "Youth is Wasted on the Young".